MARRIAGE MINISTRY



Our vision for Marriage Ministry is to facilitate couples in resolving their areas of conflict, to bring healing to their relationship, to teach skills needed in marriage, and to establish the potential for continued positive growth.
Goals for the Mentoring Sessions

1.  To identify and resolve the sources of conflict using healthy communication and problem solving skills.
2.  To teach necessary marriage skills: communication, problem solving, forgiveness, boundaries, love, etc.
3.  To bring healing and reconciliation to the relationship through forgiveness and healing prayer.
4.  To plan a future lifestyle and habits that build a healthy and growing marriage.
  
Goals for work at home together

1.  To establish daily time for positive communication. (The Daily Debrief)
2.  To establish a weekly time for romance and intimacy. (The Weekly Date)
3.  To establish a weekly problem solving appointment, initially in the ministry session, then after, 
     regularly together at home using the skills learned. (The Weekly Discussion)
4.  To encourage deeper intimacy by discovering likes/dislikes, wants, interests, dreams and goals 
     through positive communication using discussion handouts.
5.  Meditation on God’s design for love and marriage applying the Scripture verses given in handouts.



Week                          Content of Counseling Sessions                   Homework Handout


Week 1                       Listing issues                                                  Building the Positive 
                                    Communication skills                                    Making the Time


Week 2                       Problem Solving                                             Mutual         
                                                                                                              Interests


Week 3                       Forgiveness and Boundaries                       Wants and    
                                                                                                               Needs


Week 4                       Identified personal needs                            Dreams/Goals


                                                -Defining love
                                                -Spiritual foundations
                                                -Deeper issues
                                                -other





MARRIAGE MENTORING CONTRACT

1.  For the next four weeks I promise to come to healing ministry for two hours each week.

2.  During the next four weeks I promise to do my homework handouts and discuss them with my spouse at home each week.

3.  During the next four weeks I promise to spend 30 minutes talking to my spouse each day and to go to bed with my spouse each night. (unless job conflicts)      

4.  During the next four weeks I promise to spend one romantic date night each week with my spouse with the goal of building a positive, romantic and intimate time together.

5.  During the next four weeks I promise not to think about or mention separation or divorce but to focus on what I can do to make the necessary changes to build a better marriage.

6.  During the next four weeks I promise to pray for my marriage every day.

We are making these six promises beginning with today’s date:

Today’s date________________________________________________

Signature of wife_____________________________________________

Signature of husband__________________________________________